Friday 29 March 2013

DOING FOR OTHERS....

Another share from 'Daily Om'.....It made me think how often do we say or hear there is always someone worse off than yourself!!!!I wonder if that is a selfish thought to have or is it an attempt to be ignorant of our own situation for a while.Does it really make you feel better? Nah! not for me .
I do tend to be able to help others a lot easier at times than sorting myself out.A protective confidence kicks in and I will keep going until things are resolved. However,(even thinking about it I can feel myself curl up!) when it comes to getting things sorted for myself, it takes a lot of rummaging to find the same confidence!!!

At some point we have to face our fears and sort them out.Cringeworthy I know,however, the feeling of resolution tends to make you think..I did it,I can do it,It is now done!!!!

Get your cuppa and read on,



"March 27, 2013 Doing for Others Solace in Service by Madisyn Taylor 

 So many times, when we are being of service to others, we find the answer or solution to our own problems. 

 When we feel bad, often our first instinct is to isolate ourselves and focus on what’s upsetting us. Sometimes we really do need some downtime, but many times the best way to get out of the blues quickly is to turn our attention to other people. In being of service to others, paradoxically, we often find answers to our own questions and solutions to our own problems. We also end up feeling more connected to the people around us, as well as empowered by the experience of helping someone. When we reach out to people we can help, we confirm that we are not alone in our own need for support and inspiration, and we also remind ourselves that we are powerful and capable in certain ways. Even as our own problems or moods get the better of us sometimes, there is always someone else who can use our particular gifts and energy to help them out. They, in turn, remind us that we are not the only people in the world with difficulties or issues. We all struggle with the problems of life, and we all feel overwhelmed from time to time, but we can almost always find solace in service. In the most ideal situation, the person we are helping sheds light on our own dilemma, sometimes with a direct piece of advice, and sometimes without saying anything at all. Sometimes just the act of getting our minds out of the obsessive mode of trying to figure out what to do about our own life does the trick. Many great inventors and artists have found that the inspiration they need to get to the next level in their work comes not when they’re working but when they’re walking around the block or doing dishes. We do ourselves and everyone else a great service when we take a break from our sorrows and extend ourselves to someone in need."

Saturday 23 March 2013

The problem with difficult people....

Lets be honest.. for whatever reason and no matter how hard we may try, we can't always 'get on' with everyone. Whether you can admit it or not, I just want to say ITS OK.

I strongly believe that everyone we meet through out our lives has a lesson to teach.We appear at the right time, as and when we should.Its just a case of recognising what you can take from each experience.

You may learn about how certain situations effect you and how to deal with it.You may discover an emotion appears that you thought you had long buried. Whatever the outcome, accept it,and once you have settled asked the question,'what do I do with this?'

The Daily Om has a great view on this.There is a link a bit further down and you can register to recieve 'Daily Oms'!!! This is their latest  and felt it only fitting.

Carers or not,'dislike' does tend to pop in and out of our lives occasionally,this just may help you to work out what to do with it!!!!

Ps ..I like everyone!!!!!!!!


Taken from the Daily Om
http://www.dailyom.com

" March 22, 2013
Divergent Directions
Coping with People You Dislike

by Madisyn Taylor


When we are forced to deal with people we dislike, a great learning opportunity is being put forth to us.


As much as most of us wish we could exist in harmony with the people we encounter throughout our lives, there will always be individuals we dislike. Some simply rub us the wrong way while others strike us as deliberately unaware. We may judge others as too mean or abrasive for us to interact with them comfortably. Yet no person should be deemed a villain because their beliefs, opinions, mannerisms, and mode of being are not compatible with your own. You need not embrace the rough traits they have chosen to embody. There may be times in which the best course of action involves distancing yourself from someone you dislike. But circumstances may require that you spend time in the company of individuals who awaken your aversion. In such cases, you can ease your discomfort by showing your foe loving compassion while examining your feelings carefully.

The reasons we dislike some individuals are often complex and, at first, indecipherable. Often, we are automatically averse to people who are different because they compel us to question our values, spirituality, culture, and ideologies, threatening to undermine our self-assurance. Realistically, however, those you dislike have no power to weaken your life’s foundations. In fact, your aversion to specific individuals may actually be your response to your fear that specific qualities you see in them also exist within you. Their presence may force you to face internal issues you would rather not confront. If you meet someone who inspired an intense, largely negative response in you, ask yourself why your reaction is so laden with powerful emotions. Remember that you control your feelings and, if necessary, you can minimize this individual’s impact on your well-being by choosing how you will respond to them.

Though you may not have an immediate breakthrough, your willingness to consider your dislike rationally can help you better understand the root of your feelings. Your aversion to certain individuals may not wane over time, yet the comprehension you gain through reflection can help you interact with them sympathetically, benevolently, and with a greater degree of kindness. There is nothing wrong with recognizing that you are incompatible with some people. You may never achieve a shared harmony with those you dislike, but you can nonetheless learn to modulate your reactions to these individuals and, ultimately, to coexist peacefully with them."






Tuesday 19 March 2013

LIVE IN CARERS REQUIRED!


Always on the look out for the variations of care services required. the following link is a great source for finding current uk work.
Please take a look, even if it is just out of curiosity...you never know.

 http://www.liveincarejobs.net/

Friday 15 March 2013

You are doing just fine!

Its March already,where does the time go?

Its so easy sometimes to loose track of time..you carry on doing what you do each day and all of a sudden you realise that so much time has passed.

Caring, can be the same and depending on who you work for ,the shift patterns (although you love what you do) can take its toll. All of a sudden you are grasping onto the moment when it is your day off and you can have a lie in!

With me it was every other weekend off. Not so bad.However , many don't realise the time you start , finish oh and did I mention you have to see to your own family as well.

A typical day would be up at 530am to get myself ready and out the door ,allow for travel time and be at first visit for 7. In and out of visits till about 2,phone goes and you get called back out, get back home do bits and pieces before you know it ,you are getting ready to go back out for the night run and probably won't get back till about 1030ish on the night.An hour to unwind,bed about midnight up again at 5.30am.
You get the picture.

Yet, it is still the most rewarding job to do.Tiring,definately,but most rewarding.

Once again, these silent angels run around the community and no one really notices.

I do. You bring life into the homes of so many and spread light in the darkest  of moments.

From the Heart....THANK YOU.xx